This might be one of the most commonly asked questions women ask about their male partners. Although there may not be any defining answers, I figured I would give my thoughts and along the way maybe help those women who have been hurt by a cheating spouse, boyfriend or a man you in trusted with your heart.
I can talk about this by experience. All though there is never an excuse for cheating in any kind of relationship, men want and need a partner to be their best friend. What does that mean? Well, ask yourself. What do best friends do? They hang out together all the time.Building a strong bond. After some time they will generally start to have many of the same interests.You see this happen all the time.
Have you ever had a new friend that you instantly start spending a great deal of time with? Even participating in activities that you thought you would never live to see the day. All this to the chagrin of your other friends. But you don't care, you are happy and just enjoying time spent with a friend who you happen to have a lot of fun with. The lack of female friendship is why men cheat. If I could give a female any advice on how to prevent their significant other from cheating, I would say become his best friend. Stop sitting at home when he is at the gym and join him. If he is going for a drink after work, children or not on most occasions you should try to go meet him.
You see, when you have this type of mentality toward one another, it is contagious. You will find more common interests. Yes, he will always look at other women. He isn't dead and neither are you. But male/female attraction is human nature. The guy sitting at the table with friends discussing all the sexy girls has no temptation if his wife is his best friend. Usually he can't wait to get home for whatever his wife has planned for the evening.
Women must be creative in bed. Just because you are a mother or you are in the church choir means little or nothing. You are an adult first. Take care of your partner's sexual needs within reason, of course and I'm sure you will get a great deal of satisfaction too.Have a talk about sex. What you like or dislike. What kind of man you are attracted to. This should all be okay in a healthy relationship Take some dirty pictures together or better yet make a private video with him. For God sakes, he is your husband, if you can't trust him who can you trust?
When a man's mind is fulfilled at home he doesn't have the time to have a wandering eye. Why? You are that dirty girl that he can't wait to get home to after work. Everyone else is just a figment of his imagination. I come to you with this story because I've been on both sides of the coin. I had a wife that at one time, wasn't my best friend. Now she is. Let me tell you I could never imagine cheating on her.
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